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Q. I have installed a strong filter on my computer at work and it doesn't work. If you look for dirt on the internet you will find it even with the best filter, i have installed many filters including accountability software, and a number of others.  Each has there own problem and none are fool proof, i have come to the conclusion that while a filter is important as you say, a filter itself will not solve my problem.   I hope the meetings and your site will help.

Answer...

1) We have a page on our site where we tried to answer someone who claimed filters will not strong enough for him. Here is the page. Please read it carefully.

2) The idea of filters is NOT to make it 100% impossible. It will never be. You can still go to someone else's house or buy a new computer or change over to a non-Kosher server... However, - and this is a big HOWEVER, - having a good filter helps someone who is trying to recover by making these things psychologically "no longer an option". It does this by keeping the danger zones out of IMMEDIATE reach. When you're feeling bored and vulnerable, or if you're alone and you start to feel weak, it is a BIG help to know that if you want to sin like you used to, it is going to be complicated and hard. The filters keeps it out of hands reach, and without that, it is almost impossible to start to heal.

So even though filters have failed for you in the past, put them back in and send the password to me or someone else. You may want to try multiple filters, such as a "kosher server" as well as K9, or other combinations... I know someone who has 3 different filters running at the same time. That makes it a lot harder to fall and keeps it far out of hands reach, even if "somehow" you can get around them all. (See our filter page for many great options).

Now you have the support of the GUE network and many other tools to help you and this time you will succeed IY"H. But having a strong filter/s is a must.