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"guardureyes" posted on the forum

 

Without a strong filter, there is not much hope. No matter how much chizuk you get from the forum, or from the website, there will be times in the future when you are weak and vulnerable again. And to have it within hands reach, so easily and so accessible - it just won't work. You can't leave an x-alcoholic alone in a room full of alcoholic beverages for days on end. It is not just a spiritual disease. It is an addiction. And as such, it must be treated appropriately and with wisdom.

 

"postalservico" responds on the forum

 

Please people, take what guardureyes said about filters with the seriousness it deserves. Don't let the YH tell you that you don't need a filter for any reason. There is no reason that I can think of to not have a internet filter on your computer. I recommend K9 (www.k9webprotection.com/). It’s simple and easy to use.

At first, i tried to convince myself that I didn’t need a filter, that I could look without going all the way. It just doesn’t work like that. It’s an addiction, just like guardureyes said. I wouldn't even have access to the filter password. I guess it would be like giving an alcoholic the keys to a locked fridge. The lock isn’t much of a barrier when it can be opened whenever the alcoholic wants a drink.

When i didn’t have my filter, i could only go a couple days before failing. When installed a filter, but had access to the password, i could go a week at a time before failing. When i gave up access to the password, my first streak was 18 days (chai!) and I'm on my way to breaking that soon enough.

It gives me peace of mind to know that it’s nearly impossible for me to view the stuff that normally would get me to sin. Imagine how an alcoholic who is 100% committed to overcoming his addiction feels when all around him is alcohol. It’s stressful and leads to so much anxiety...because he so desperately wants to overcome his addiction; his mind cannot be at rest unless the alcohol is outside his reach.

 


People write on Arutz Sheva "Talk-Back"...

I feel Freed...from Carmel

We downloaded a filter (I asked my wife to do it for me so I wouldn't know the code) and now for the first time in ages I can sit down at the computer without the nagging temptation. I recommend it for everyone.


Menachem from LA writes....

Thank you for the information. My wife brought my attention to this article and said we should do something about it with our boys getting older (14 and 12). Of course, she is right, since I myself am not immune to the temptation. Who possibly could be since it is only a click away? While a parent cannot always control what goes on outside of his house (especially in a town like LA), to everyone who values Judaism, it is our job to guard the sanctity of the Jewish home.


Mother from Efrat...

I wondered what my oldest boy was up to when he disappears for hours into his room. Now I am afraid I know. As is things are very glass shattering between us. I don't know what to do.


Yisrael from Bet El...

Immodesty was the root of the sexual transgression that destroyed the First Temple. The Gemara describes how the Jewish women would prance around immodestly in the streets of Jerusalem to tempt the men, and everyone knows what that leads to. (Yoma 9B). People don't have to throw away their computers, but if parents don't install filters they are transgression the Torah prohibition, "Don't put a stumbling block in front of a blind man."


A Father from Baltimore writes...

When I discovered that our 15 year old son was watching pornography I was shocked to think how miserably we had failed to educate him to know the difference bewteen right and wrong. When I mentioned the matter to a good friend at work, he admitted that he had had the same problem with one of his kids, and that I shouldn't take it so much to heart because the temptation was simply so great that the best education in the world can't prevent it. So upon his advice I had a heart to heart talk with my son, and there wasn't a blow up at all. He accepted it quietly with a real look of shame, and I think that's what gave him to incentive to stop. Our relationship has been stronger ever since. So I don't think a parent should be afraid to talk about the problem straight out. Install a filter with your son's knowledge and he will respect you. That's a part of what it means to be a parent. We shouldn't be afraid of our kids. They need us.